When someone believes in you!

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Have you ever experienced a situation in your life, when you have thought you can’t make it but someone was there by your side who believed in you? The difference this person has made in your life by always encouraging you, believing in your ability and nurturing your untapped potentials ultimately helped you reach heights which you never dream you could.

Three years ago, while searching for a suitable school in the city for our son who was very much delayed in his speech, we came across a school which seemed the right choice for him. When we met the Principal and the facilitator of the school, we explained our son’s speech delay and we hesitated to ask if they could give him admission to their school. But they lovingly welcomed him in and assured us that he will improve as he begins his schooling. Their words felt so soothing to our worried minds and we left the school feeling a bit relaxed but at the same time wondering how things would be for him in the school…

He began his schooling facing many obstacles initially as he wasn’t able to keep up with the other kids in learning and doing other activities. He couldn’t talk like other kids did, couldn’t understand what is being taught and couldn’t adjust to the school atmosphere even after 6 months. We were worried about him. Many times, we thought to discontinue his schooling and send him to a special needs school. It was very frustrating time for us as we couldn’t give enough attention to him because of our daughter’s health issues.

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First day of School.

This ugly duckling wasn’t fitting in and this thought always brought tears to my eyes. His limitations were making him act in a bad way – throwing tantrums, pushing other kids and falling on the floor. Most of the time, he wouldn’t even eat his lunch box and stayed hungry during school hours. Sending him to school and bringing him back became very stressful for us. When he would come from school, I would ask his Dad if any teachers had any complaints about him or were they asking us to send him to another school? Tension always hovered over my head.

But things began to change slowly over a period of time. In the later years, we were getting more good reports than bad ones. His school performance was improving. His hidden skills were showing up. He was improving in all the activities and most of all he was becoming very excited about going to school. He could make few friends, He was able to communicate with teachers, was able to follow instructions and was able to participate in sports and dance. Moreover, he felt accepted.

These changes were only possible, because his class teacher believed in him. She didn’t give up even though we felt like giving up our hopes. She made all efforts to help him in all the areas. With her gentle but firm discipline, she encouraged him to read, write, eat and participate in all activities like other kids. She encouraged us to support him. The only words she had for him were: “Asher is a brilliant boy”. Every time, she would be so happy to share about his improvement, his spoken words, his talent and his reading skills. Even though she knew the challenges he had, she was very patient, understanding, supportive and loving. She was a silent corrector and a loud encourager which helped Asher to come out of his shell, to learn, to grow and to be happy being all he is.

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Asher with his Class Teacher Mrs. Seena Sankar ( School Facilitator)

Today is his last day of School. I don’t know if he will have the memories of these three years spent in this school as he grows up or if he will remember his teacher who made a big difference in his life. But one thing I am sure about is the seeds of confidence which his teacher has sown in his life will definitely yield good results. When he goes to the new school, where his favourite teacher will not be seen but I pray and hope “someone” will be there for him who will continue to cultivate those seeds and believe in him.

Isn’t it amazing that God brings people into our lives who believe in us and stand by ourside? They might be our teachers, leaders, family members, friends or colleagues. They help us go forward, overlooking our weaknesses and encouraging our strengths. Their words give us positive energy, a new perspective and a confidence to believe that there is still a hope. They are always trying to bring out the best in us. They are indeed a beautiful reflection of God’s love for us. Let’s be thankful to Him for placing them in our lives.

The Real Me!

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Recently I was fascinated (hooked on actually) by a photo editor app on my phone. I was only familiar with the brightness and cropping to edit a photo until I came across this app which had many more options beyond what I knew. I was just stunned to see the options – slim face, large eyes, slim nose, many types of makeup tools, hairstyles, eye colours, skin tones, tools etc. Out of curiosity, I tried them to see how my picture would look with all these alterations. Even though this app made me look better and different, I knew that wasn’t the “real me”. It was just a trick of the app which made me feel happy for a moment in what I appeared to be.

In the same way, when I look at my life, I so wish to have it look different. I try to present it as best as I can. I put a smile on my face, hide the tears in my eyes, and try to make my voice as bold and cheerful as possible. I pretend that I am very strong in facing all the challenges of life and I am just happy being all I am. I am no different than my next door neighbour. I also want to appear better emotionally by answering: “Yes! I am doing fine and all is well here”, to the questions of my family & friends. But deep down in my heart I know that isn’t the “real me”. I am just trying to appear different than who I am.

Sometimes we feel so much relief not to show our real self to the world or show a better version of it. Maybe because we think our real self will disqualify us from people’s approval, their acceptance and any significance. Maybe we think that no one will understand our struggles and pain even if we share them. We might even think people will judge us for who we are. We want to be part of the crowd and have a picture-perfect life without any flaws or failures. But in the attempt to appear perfect and flawless often the “real me” gets buried and hidden. We can be at ease in this pretend play but deep down in our hearts we know that isn’t the “real me”.

But the beautiful truth I want to share with you is: God knows this “real me”. He sees your heart, he knows your emotional state, your hurts, your fears, your doubts, even your lack of faith, your not so good thoughts, and your each and every feeling. And He invites you to be the real you in His presence so He can bestow His grace upon you. In those quiet moments with Him, He wants to search your heart and revive your soul letting you remove all the masks and allowing you to be the real you, inviting you to bring your brokenness to Him, shed tears in His presence, lay your hurts, your confusion, fears, and your every feeling at His feet.

Dear Father, I come into your presence setting aside all my pretensions and masks. Please search my heart and fill it with your joy and peace today. Here I stand; broken, worried, confused, angry, hurting, resentful and trying to grasp onto the little faith I have in my heart. And deep down in my heart I know it’s the “real me”. Thank you for embracing me with your outstretched & loving arms. In Jesus’ name, Amen!

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